*’*Looking for a Daily Questions Buddy*̵...

*’*Looking for a Daily Questions Buddy*’*

Hi Gorgie Beans!

So I read this fabulous book “Triggers” by world renowned business coach Marshall Goldsmith in Bali recently. Goldsmith makes a killing globally, working with executives (even presidents!) and helping them naturally create habits around self monitoring and achievement. Now I won’t get all grade 11 book report on you, and do an in-depth summary. I don’t purposely try to bore you… BUT, I do want to share one of the biggest pieces of the book with you, his Daily Questions:



Goldsmith religiously answers a set of active questions, called Daily Questions, every night. The idea is that by rating yourself every day on a set of behavioural questions from 1-10, you will more easily create a lasting habit around it. You see your progress (and challenges) on the goals you set daily, rather than as a depressing and impossible lump sum.

However, to enact meaningful and insightful change, Daily Questions must be active, not passive. When we ask ourselves passive questions it becomes easy to have excuses. “Did I get to work on time? No.” can easily be met with “well, there was traffic” or “it’s not my fault, my alarm didn’t ring”. Whereas if you ask “Did I do my best to get to work on time? ” you become directly responsible for the alarm and the planning for traffic. We must place responsibility on ourselves to instil the habit

e.g. passive questions: Did I find meaning today? / Did I make progress on work?

e.g. active questions:  Did I do my best today to find meaning? / Did I do my best today to make progress on work?

Something else interesting Goldsmith does is share his ratings of his Daily Questions to an assistant he hired for that purpose. Except we can’t all hire an assistant to help us become better people… Nonetheless, we can definitely link up with fellow bosses and check in with each other. Sharing your progress with another human being is an enormous motivator!



Which gets me to the begging.


Be my Daily Questions buddy! I’m looking to get a fellow blogger to join me in exchanging our Daily Questions answers, and support each other through the process. If you want to try this technique out with me and see if we can download some positive habits, e-mail me Let’s do the damned thing! xx

Daily Questions Examples: Did I do my best today to...
… build positive relationships … be fully engaged … eat clean and stay hydrated … stay organized … be happy … be patient and understanding … make progress on work … connect with my parter … meditate … connect with my family … stretch before bed … promote my blog … learn something new … create engaging content…


  • Style hue

    Love all these questions! I always sum up a list at night of things I’m grateful for or things that I achieved that day!
    I love the idea, and I wish I had an assistant 😂
    Your pictures are also stunning!


  • Anca Tantos

    I started to do this as it was one of my goals for 2017! I have a notebook on my night stand that I write in each night. It actually works! That book is on my list to read this year! xo

  • Paige Strand

    “Grade 11 book report” – XD In terms of this, I feel sometimes that its helpful to record what I’m grateful for, or things I need to achieve later on!

  • Angie

    Wow i love this! and i love that you are looking for acountabili-a-buddies! I have a self depricating brand of humor, but I also always bust my butt and know that I’m in control of my own successes and failures. This is a great exercise to help ground me!

    Thanks for sharing that book too!


  • What a fabulous idea Kandja! I love the fact that you’re making this so actionable and making yourself accountable for the changes you’re seeking. The book sounds like it had enormous impact. I’m gonna get it as my next read for the plane! Never heard of it before but it’s right up my alley. Thank you for the recommendation!

    Style Tomes ||ST on IG

  • I want to read this book now!! I love the idea of asking yourself questions to keep yourself accountable!! I love your outfit too!!!

    Sarah //

  • Wow, this sounds like a seriously interesting book! What a way to look at questions and make them meaningful! I feel like I’m not worthy of being your question buddy!! lol

  • This sounds like such a great idea! Taking ownership and responsibility for how our day went. I feel like this post came at the right time for me. I may have to start asking these questions too!


  • Babe I totally loved this post!!! It’s such a great reminder to remember the good things about our days and look at everything from a diff perspective

    Whitney v

  • That book sounds so good though! Have heard about daily questions before and the importance of asking them in favor of progressing and I like the idea! Hahah, I’d probably go mad though when I realize that I’ve procastinated my life another day, lol! Xx

  • Ahhh I’ve been looking for a good book to read and check out and I think I’ve found the one now! Hehe thanks for sharing babe xo, sharon

  • OMG YES! Love the idea of Daily Q’s, I’m totally going to do this- and we can follow up together on our next blogger date 😉 hehe. And dammmnnn girl love this outfit on you, the stockings are such a sexy touch xx- Mitra

  • That is really cool! I love that idea. I may need to check out that book soon!


  • As someone who works with execs this sounds like they know what they’re doing! These questions can help keep busy bloggers focused on high-level important priorities, which is so important these days! Definitely checking this out!

    Chow Down USA

  • The book is quite interesting. Love your look hun.

    xo, shaine |

  • Deffinatlyshaz

    Sounds like a great read. You look lovely. Love the dress

  • Cindy

    Oooh! Thanks for sharing the book! Gotta look into it! And I love this idea – gets you so focused!! xo C.

  • Rina Doria

    Love that this book has inspired your everyday thinking. I definitely think it can be applied to your daily life and just becoming a better person overall. Killer outfit too babe!

    xoxo Rina Samantha

  • I love this post! Responsibility is so important and thinking more about our actions can help us improve in our lives. Thanks for sharing!

    – Jasmine K

  • kierra

    I seriously need to read more. Reading is so inspiration! Loving this post and how it has touched your life and given you some inspiration.

  • Eliz Ida

    love this post! xx

  • Amy

    This is a crazy awesome exercise, and definitely one I want to incorporate into my daily routine!! Down to be your daily question buddy, babe 😉

    xx, Amy

  • Caitlin

    Amazing photos!

    Caitlin, Beauty & Colour

  • Love these shots! It shows how wonderful style you have. I like this dress because it look so comfy and elegant on you!

  • I’m all about self-improvement! Sounds like a great read. And I love the tops of your tights – so flirty and fun!

    xx Yasmin

  • I want to say I am all about self improvement and empowering but most days I’m trying to survive my 2 year old…

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

  • loving the knitted dress!
    IG @grace_njio

  • Andrea

    This is amazing! Thanks for sharing!! I’m always trying to look for more ways to better myself!

    xx Andrea

  • Donatella Acampora

    Excellent tips and beatiful photos!!