Dying to get to LA

Those of you who follow @prettyweirdbombshell know that I’m off to LA for the weekend! I’m still on the plane writing this actually, sweaty hands and all. The turbulence we just went through was… phenomenal.

It only lasted roughly twenty seconds, even though that twenty seconds felt like forrreverrr in the moment. I’m talking people screaming, stomachs rising, holding hands with the random guy next to me kind of turbulence (sorry Justy, but I thought we were falling to our deaths!).

What I ACTUALLY thought:

Omg.
omg we’re falling.
ahhhhh! Holy crap, why are we falling?!
Where tf are those oxygen things?
Thats it. Im going to sue the fuck out of Delta.
wait. I’m going to be dead.
OMG I cant believe I’m thinking about sueing Delta instead of about my family!
Ahhhhhh!!!!
ew.
This guy’s hand is sweaty too. AHHH!

A second later, we pop above the clouds and the plane stabilizes like nobody’s business. The pilot’s voice cracks over the speakers and of course- congratulations, we played ourselves.

In the moment, the danger from the turbulence felt so real that it saturated every thought. There was nothing else. Not even the statistical optimism of coming out on the other side of the clouds and being safe… Which got me thinking about the power of perspective, and how often we traumatize ourselves by not using perspective as a fluid tool.

Despite my reaction to “almost dying” 20 minutes ago, I’m typically on the ball when it comes to looking at the bigger picture. Being conscious of my viewpoints has been the BIGGEST contributing factor to my happiness. Hopefully, my process for changing perspective helps you in your next moment of turbulence, in any aspect of your life. Or at the very least saves you from having the stranger you held hands with in the moment give you googly eyes for the remaining 2 hours of your flight! (On god, I think he’s reading as a I write……)

How to change your perspective in three steps:

1. Disconnect:

Our culture excessively advocates being connected to the present moment to be well. But there’s something to be said about taking a step back and temporarily disconnecting from a negative situation. Give yourself space (physically or mentally), as it’s almost always the first step to truly changing your perspective.

2. Evaluate:

Once you have access to a bigger picture, analyze the situation from different points of view until you find one that serves you better. Being empathetic will help immensely here. But don’t get stuck in your head looking for perfection. A positive perspective cannot always be forced, and that’s okay.

“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.”

3. Decide:

Perspective is essentially belief. Once you make the decision to adopt a new viewpoint, believe in it fully. Having faith in your decision is the only thing that gives life to a new outlook. Perhaps your divorce is sucking the life out of you and you’re losing the best thing that ever happened to you. But maybe your divorce is the beginning of an unencumbered life where you find unconditional love. Either way, you have to fully believe in a point of view to reap the benefits…

So any who, I’m dying to get to LA for the weekend (airplane, that’s a hyperbole). But yo, if this flight decides to do another tilt-a-whirl, I’ll be ready. See you on the ground! xx

 


  • Mellissa Fernandes

    Lol I hate turbulences! I used to be an airhostess and the fear grew from then 🙈
    I absolutely love and agree with the steps you mention above, sometimes stepping back and analyzing the situation gives you a fresh outlook.. and this definitely changes the way you see it!
    Great post!
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  • Selma Bacevac

    Great read. I would have the hardest time disconnecting – yet I understand the powerful implications in that word. These three steps are almost anxiety relief steps for many 🙂

  • Hannah Ellaham

    I am a frequent flyer and completely feel you on this. Turbulence is scary as shit!

  • Mindy Voet

    These are great tips! Exactly what we all should be doing every day.

  • Gillian Kent

    Something I a struggling with now. Especially the perfection part. Always an issue for me. I am trying not to fight the negaitve mood and instead pay attention to the whys that got me here. Hopefully that will lead me to a better perspective.

  • Wow short and sweet but extremely insighful. Thanks for this!

  • This is such good advice! 🙂 I’m glad that the turbulence was short lived! It can be quite scary when that happens on a plane!

    Hope you are having a great week 🙂

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  • Heck I would have been thinking all the same things as you; I hate turbulence!! I’m also in need of a new perspective. This year has been such a rollercoaster and I’m feeling pretty down in the dumps. I need to change my perspective and focus on the positive again!

  • Danielle Fairhurst

    I hate flying!

    But you make such a good point about how changing your perspective can have such a huge impact on everything around you – thanks for the reminder

    Dani x

  • Janice Ruste

    I was a flight attendant for Emimrates airlines so this kind of situation doesn’t bother me. The first time I had something like this happen at work, I was sitting across my passengers and telling them that it’s normal, but in my head I was screaming all the saints and angels’ names to come save us. lol.

  • ohh goodness! Flying can be stressful! Loved how you changed your perspective!

  • Bailey

    My word! I’m so glad it helped your refocus but that is horribly stressful!

  • What a thought provoking post! Thanks for sharing. I freak out a lot when I fly.

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