Those of you who follow @prettyweirdbombshell know that I’m off to LA for the weekend! I’m still on the plane writing this actually, sweaty hands and all. The turbulence we just went through was… phenomenal.
It only lasted roughly twenty seconds, even though that twenty seconds felt like forrreverrr in the moment. I’m talking people screaming, stomachs rising, holding hands with the random guy next to me kind of turbulence (sorry Justy, but I thought we were falling to our deaths!).
What I ACTUALLY thought:
omg we’re falling.
ahhhhh! Holy crap, why are we falling?!
Where tf are those oxygen things?
Thats it. Im going to sue the fuck out of Delta.
wait. I’m going to be dead.
OMG I cant believe I’m thinking about sueing Delta instead of about my family!
This guy’s hand is sweaty too. AHHH!
A second later, we pop above the clouds and the plane stabilizes like nobody’s business. The pilot’s voice cracks over the speakers and of course- congratulations, we played ourselves.
In the moment, the danger from the turbulence felt so real that it saturated every thought. There was nothing else. Not even the statistical optimism of coming out on the other side of the clouds and being safe… Which got me thinking about the power of perspective, and how often we traumatize ourselves by not using perspective as a fluid tool.
Despite my reaction to “almost dying” 20 minutes ago, I’m typically on the ball when it comes to looking at the bigger picture. Being conscious of my viewpoints has been the BIGGEST contributing factor to my happiness. Hopefully, my process for changing perspective helps you in your next moment of turbulence, in any aspect of your life. Or at the very least saves you from having the stranger you held hands with in the moment give you googly eyes for the remaining 2 hours of your flight! (On god, I think he’s reading as a I write……)
How to change your perspective in three steps:
Our culture excessively advocates being connected to the present moment to be well. But there’s something to be said about taking a step back and temporarily disconnecting from a negative situation. Give yourself space (physically or mentally), as it’s almost always the first step to truly changing your perspective.
Once you have access to a bigger picture, analyze the situation from different points of view until you find one that serves you better. Being empathetic will help immensely here. But don’t get stuck in your head looking for perfection. A positive perspective cannot always be forced, and that’s okay.
“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.”
Perspective is essentially belief. Once you make the decision to adopt a new viewpoint, believe in it fully. Having faith in your decision is the only thing that gives life to a new outlook. Perhaps your divorce is sucking the life out of you and you’re losing the best thing that ever happened to you. But maybe your divorce is the beginning of an unencumbered life where you find unconditional love. Either way, you have to fully believe in a point of view to reap the benefits…
So any who, I’m dying to get to LA for the weekend (airplane, that’s a hyperbole). But yo, if this flight decides to do another tilt-a-whirl, I’ll be ready. See you on the ground! xx