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Being More Mindful: Remembering your Mindfulness Practise

mind·ful·ness: ˈmīn(d)f(ə)lnəs/ noun

noun: mindfulness 1. 
the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.



 2. 
a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

Sometimes I excel at being fully in the present, connected to myself and my surroundings. Other times, most times to be perfectly honest, I’m horrendous at being mindful. Essentially, I run on autopilot. If you’re anything like me, your days often blend into a series of repetitive tasks you’ve done thousands of times. Have breakfast, workout, work, run errands, chill, sleep, repeat. All the while focusing more on accomplishing those tasks rather than being present and maybe even enjoying them. But can you blame us? It’s as easy as ever to get lost in a device, or worse/ more easily yet, anxious thoughts…

Whenever I DO manage find that sweet spot of productivity and mindfulness, it’s like living life wrapped in a warm fuzzy sweater. Problems are less stressful, easier to solve. Moments become more powerful. Relationships more meaningful, impactful… So why don’t I (/the entire world) live in this blissful state 24/7?

Because making lasting positive behavioural change is hard as balls. Duh.

And while being more mindful is at the top of many of our achievement wish lists, it’s consistently one of the harder ones to complete. Mindfulness is a character trait that takes more practice and determination than skill. As with most things, consistency is key to success. Which trust me, I know is one of those terribly annoying “easier said than done” cliches. Nevertheless, my fabulous yoga teachers preach consistency to me on the regular, and when I can deliver, the results speak for themselves. So I must, in turn young padawan, preach consistency to you…

But back to what you do when you’re a regular person without creepily super human determination and want to be more mindful? As a human with a relatively “normal” amount of willpower, I find that the consistency of being more mindful is much harder than actually being mindful. Which is why the following are my personal tips for getting MOVING on your mindfulness projects:

Remembering to be more mindful in 2017

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Being more mindful #1. Set an alarm to practice right when you wake up.

Practising mindfulness first thing in the morning helps set your nervous system’s tone for the rest of the day. Which in turn increases the likelihood of other mindful moments. Using a recurrent alarm has so far been the most effective way to remember to start my day from a clear, connected perspective. If you find yourself dozing off, as I sometimes do, set the alarm for practise after having your morning coffee or tea. However, don’t turn on the TV, check your phone or email, etc. until after you’ve had your sit. You’ll be less likely to forget!

Being more mindful #2. Schedule a small space (or two) for meditation in your day.

Again, use technology to help you with your betterment goals! There’s nothing better to help you remember to be more mindful than an alarm. Create more space for your practise by scheduling in 15 minutes once or twice a day in your planner. The best way to cultivate mindfulness in everyday life is to formally train in meditation.

Simple Mindfulness Practise: 1. Start by focusing on what your breath feels like in your lungs. How does your full ribcage feel against your skin? Can you follow your breath flowing in and out of your body and release any tension? 2. Slowly expand your awareness to your environment. How does the air you’re breathing smell, or feel? What items or people are around you? 3. Live in the moment. Stay mindful of your body and surroundings in harmony for the remainder of your practise. If your mind wanders during practise, non judgmentally – lovingly (and) gently— bringing it back.

Being more mindful #3: Practice mindfulness while you wait.

Waiting is a big source of frustration for most of us– whether you’re waiting in line at Starbucks or stuck in killer traffic. But while not getting what you want immediately might seem like a nuisance (we all have a little brat in us), waiting is actually an opportunity for mindfulness. When you’re waiting, bring your attention to your breath. The more often you do this, the more it becomes a natural habit. Imagine being able to bring awareness to the daily activities you usually do on autopilot… You’d be an unstoppable zen machine!

Being more mindful #4: Check your progress often.

Using tools like Daily Questions can certainly help you stay on the right path of being more mindful, but only if you can track your progress consistently. Nonetheless, don’t worry about tracking your mindfulness development for two days and then dropping off the face of the map. It’s these types of small “failures” that help us be slightly more prepared the next time around…

The hardest part of being more mindful in 2017 is remembering it’s a priority. Keep your mindfulness practise short. Your brain will respond better to bursts of mindfulness. So being mindful several times a day is more helpful than a lengthy session or even a weekend retreat. While 20 minutes is ideal, starting off with a few minutes at a time is infinitely better than nothing. Just breathe young padawan. Just breathe.

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  • I don’t know if staying more in the moment equals to being more mindful but I find my day to day to be so much better ever since I stop being online all the time.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

  • What a great post and lovely photos my dear! I totally agree that being more mindful is so important. I strongly believe in checking progress often especially as a freelancer! xo, sharon

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  • What a great post and reminder for us all!! I can definitely run-on autopilot at times as well. Thanks for the tips!

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  • Caroline Ross

    beautiful article! I needed the reminder to be more mindful, thank you!

  • Trendmebeauty

    Great tips! Totally guilty of not being in the present, most times, as well. Gotta learn not to be so robotic and enjoy every minute. Love these photos, you look amazing as always Kandja!! 😙😙❤

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  • This is such a simple yet important and beautiful post! As someone that suffers from anxiety, I know how important mindfulness can be! I totally want to try your tip of starting my day off with some mindfulness! Instead of reaching for my phone and checking messages first thing, how nice would it be to start the day off on a more peaceful note instead???
    Kyla
    wanderlustkyla.com

  • Sarah M Velasco

    This post couldn’t have come at a better time. It is definitely important to stay mindful especially with us bloggers. We need to find a balance in our lives and these tips are pretty amazing! Thanks KS for sharing ! Ps. Love the outfit !

    Sarah

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  • Cindy

    What a great post, love! Fantastic tips and we definitely could all use more mindfulness – especially as bloggers – life can be so cra cra!!!

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    xo,
    C.

  • I like the idea of daily questions I always try to be mindful but its so difficult when life is so hectic at times. Having daily questions I think will be good at helping me reflect!

    xo

  • Yes! I am terrible at being mindful and in the present all the time. I’ve actually been told I need to practice mindfulness first my anxiety so I try to spend 10 minutes a night sitting quietly working on mindfulness meditation from YouTube videos! Great tips and advice here!!

    Ellie
    http://Www.scotchandstilettos.com

  • Style hue

    Really great post. Meditation is something I have been trying to get back into, and definitely keeping my priorities straight, but also not burn out 😉
    Thank for reminding me

    Xo
    http://style-hue.com

  • GLOGEWORLD

    Interesting post! You look gorgeous in between

  • Jolina

    Love the tip of setting an alarm! It’s really easy to forget and get lost in your day.

  • Lisa Sell

    I’ve just started doing a meditation app called Headspace and it’s proving to be really helpful.

  • Edward Traversa

    all excellent points, finding time to delve into quietude is one of lifes arts, but often well worth the effort

  • Elisha

    Wow! This is such a great posts babe! Love reading something like you are really into something and more personal! Such a must read! Loving your whole look hear by the way! Hope you could drop by on my blog too! Have a nice day!

    xoxo
    Elisha http://loveelisha.net

  • Bee

    Rock on with your mindfulness girl. It’s a daily thing but I find myself starting a thousand times over. Nothing wrong with it. Just zen!

  • Babies to Bookworms

    Great tips! I need to try these. I love the shoes by the way!

  • Brigette Collins

    Great advice and great look! I just love your blog 🙂

  • Asja Svilans

    All of these tips are spot on! Nice work!

  • Nandyz Soulshine

    Waiting for anything really irks me. Next time, I am surely going to try being mindful when forced to wait…great way to find a silver lining. Thanks 🙂

  • Such a unique post Kandj, really enjoyed reading!! The whole time after you mentioned it I was focusing on my breathing hehe 😉 I’ve been doing a bit of the ‘Daily Q’s’ you talked about before and it’s amazing for mindfulness. Thanks for sharing that tip with us all 🙂 x- Mitra

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  • Totally agree, we are all so busy and caught up in our day to day lives that we forget to take the time to reflect and as you said, be more mindful. Your tips sound great and totally doable. Definitely need to start meditating, I have been telling myself to do that for years now, ugh!

    xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

  • Great advice! It’s definitely important to check in with yourself and reflect. Thanks for sharing your tips!

    xoxo,
    Stephanie
    http://www.dotsandhoney.com

  • brownpaperdoll

    These are some great tips! I need to remember to take time for myself and reflect. Thanks for sharing! xo, LA
    brownpaperdoll.com

  • Love this chic neutral look! So true that it’s tough to find a balance these days, especially as a blogger! Such great tips, especially the one about being mindful as you wait!

    Chelsea
    Chow Down USA
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  • The Blonde Diary Channel

    This is a great post! I really enjoyed reading it and totally agree with everything you say. And this outfit it stunning… really goes with the mood of the post.

    xoxo,
    Gabi

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